Posted by Anonymous on 2015/01/26 under Uncategorized I don’t know where to start. I miss romance and the way that it feels to have someone lust after me. I’m just bored. Is that okay? To be bored with someone that says he loves you and you love him and when he touches me I know that I could be with him. It’s just lost all the fire that we use to have. And I think about breaking up with him more than I should but when we’re together I forget that I want to break up with him. Also I can’t get over the fact that he smokes weed constantly. Everyday he goes to his friends house and smokes weed he won’t even talk about slowing down a little. He blows up and yells at me like I’m trying to control him. I’m not telling him to stop, I’m just saying he shouldn’t do it everyday all day. He has no motivation to succeed or advance in his career at all. He doesn’t want to be anything. How can I be with someone of it’s never going to get better than apartments and fry cook. I don’t want that kind of life am I a terrible girlfriend?
Well, speaking from one girl to another, along with a realistic perspective I personally don’t find those kinds of traits good in a guy. I’m not a fan of those that smoke weed, but your boyfriend should at least try to decrease how much he does it. Or at least think of how you feel and take it into consideration.
As for success, it’s important for your relationship to continue, that he tries to advance. The economy isn’t 100% and living in apartments can only satisfy one so much.
However, these are just my ideas and morals. I don’t mean to tell you your boyfriend is terrible, as I don’t know him or your relationship. But for a healthy relationship to work, listening is important and should be where two people bond and can try to learn from each other (this is true with friendships as well). Healthy communication, if you will.
The decision rests with you. If you feel it should end, then let it end. Odds are you will be hurt too, but it’ll at least let you begin a new chapter.
If anything, you’re not a terrible girlfriend 🙂 I wish you the best of luck in finding a solution.